On Overcoming Worry, Stress and Anxiety.
"I have read Mary’s book, as well as participated in a couple of her training sessions. I am someone who has always struggled with worry and anxiety and knew that I could overcome that by implementing many of Mary’s strategies. By changing the way I speak, and taking more time to evaluate the things I am thankful for, I have noticed how much better I feel. Although I have always been a healthy person, I know that continued stress leads to physical problems. I am very happy to have found ways to control my thought process at a young age – before the "worry thoughts" affect more than just my mind. I am now keeping a thankfulness journal, daily capturing my gratitude for things happening in my life, from getting up in the morning, to spending special time with my daughter. This has really helped my focus. It takes time to make many of the techniques a habit, but now that I have been “practicing” for a couple of months, I feel like I have made so much progress! Mary is very inspirational and I’m grateful for the applicable resources. Thank you Mary!"
On Increasing Creativity and Innovation
"After seeing Mary speak on Managing Thought, I implemented two simple strategies. They remain as simple post it notes on my monitor. They read: "Change but to and..." and "How can we?" These two simple phrases have changed my management style and benefitted my entire organization. As a fundamentally positive person, I often struggled with ways to assist others in moving forward and staying positive. It was difficult for me to see how something easy for me could be difficult for others. These two practical phrases have had a profound impact on our organization - helping us to achieve over 180% growth in a 5-year time frame. Thank you Mary!"
On Raising Money for a Not-For-Profit
Managing my thoughts has truly enhanced my life. I used to tell myself that I could not possibly ask people for money. I could give you all the variations on this theme, however those are old dead branches and suckers I choose not to revisit. During the course of the workshop with you I was able to come up with, "I ask people for money so that they can celebrate in the joy of helping others." This thought took some time for me to actualize. I would do the meditation you offered us and look at my unhealthy thoughts and work on embracing my new ones. The big day came when I found myself in the position to ask someone for a donation to our not for profit organization. Believe me I was practically chanting my new thought before the meeting. I did spend some time role-playing this in my head and on paper before meeting the donor. So, I asked them for 1 million dollars. (Not bad for a first try, huh?) The response I got was," we were thinking more around the $100,000 range, but if you need $1 million, we will throw a dinner party with our friends to help raise the money." This is just one example of where Managing Thought has improved my life.
Carl Clark, M.D.
On Handling Limiting Beliefs in Sales Presentations
My first success occurred last Friday. We had a major presentation against a competitor who has dragged my sales guys down into mudslinging each time in the past. I used your "power of managing thought" coaching to handle the negative beliefs about them beginning with a pre-call huddle where everyone breathed deeply and specifically breathed out the anger and breathed in the power of the good things that we are going to do for this customer. Right off the bat, the customer made it clear they were keen to the conflict. We were presenting last and they had picked up negative vibes from the competitor and hit us right between the eyes with "this other company offers the same thing you do, why are you different." Needless to say, my team had been prepared for this and their thoughts were clear. They stayed high tuned and the customer was left with no doubt about who was interested in them and who wasn't. We stayed 100% interested in the customer's success and avoided the conflict, and kept ten people engrossed and involved until 6:00 PM on a Friday afternoon after they had been through a full day of presentations already.
On Dealing With Cancer
"In August 2005, after a year of chemical therapy to get a raging prostate under enough control, and downsized enough, to give full-on radiation a chance for success, I was scheduled for kick-off surgery. With a PSA off the charts, and a mean Gleason of "9," I was scared. After a year of trying to be Attitude Guy, it was on me: I was about to take the step that determined whether I lived or died. All the bottled up fear came racing in.
Lawrence M. Cassidy
Creating Intentions Together as a Couple
My husband Rick and I have already added your "formula" to a weekly ritual that we do. Every Sunday we pick an "angel card" (I'm sure you've seen them) and then become aware/add whatever behavior or principal that word indicates to our lives throughout the week. Yesterday, I chose "discernment" and Rick chose "responsibility". I suggested that instead of just talking about what those meant with each other, to do the 7 question format - "If I'm being ____ what am I doing? Then, of course, reading our answers to each other. Then we chose the top 2 and decided that during the week we were going to apply the "7" to those as well. Doing this added so much more to our exchange - AND we had fun (no judgment).
On Setting a Vision for Our Children
I never thought about setting a vision for the daily life of my children. I can now look at all their activities and prioritize them and, in the case of my teenagers, help them decide how to spend their time.
Anonymous Mom, Detroit, MI
On Dealing With Panic and Immobility
My cat was diagnosed with a chronic disease which will probably be what he dies from. There are actions to take and there are deteriorations which will inevitably happen. I use the concepts in the book to keep focusing on my love for all those around me, to shed old beliefs about having to save those I love, an unrealistic expectation, and the old belief that anything less than pure contentment in my pets is unacceptable and I am a terrible person if I let that happen. I focus on the beautiful flow of life in all beings around me and my active participation in that flow feeling joy daily as I observe this. This has helped me to shed the panic and immobility which the news of my cat’s health sent me into, and keeps me from going back there endlessly….a pattern which was well established in me prior to reading this book.
Helped me in challenging circumstances
Mary Lore's book Managing Thought, has been instrumental in working through some very difficult situations both professionally and personally recently. Previously I would have approached a situation in a very linear manner, pursuing the results I want and correcting along the way to preserve the relationship, the outcome was routinely poor with damage to the relationship and the results were not what they could have been.
Managing Thought provided me with tools I used to resolve nearly all of our outstanding issues and bring about resolution 'without attorneys' for a 10th of our proposed settlement costs. What Mary's book taught me is the concept of creating separation between the negative thoughts coming out of your brain and the reality that those thoughts are different from who you are, what you want to present and what you want to accomplish! This was an epiphany to me. Adding that element of control and not reacting to situations with the thoughts presented by my brain helped me enormously. The discipline of treating negative thoughts as merely input 'and not always constructive' to the situation really opened my eyes. I am genuinely grateful to Mary and her wonderful book!
I read this book because I'd heard it helped a friend in her attitude toward her business. Little did I realize that it was also a specific, step by step method to overcome depression and the feelings of helplessness I felt in many areas of my life. Now, when I start feeling an emotional drop, I just start using the tools contained in this wonderful book, and I don't have to be a victim of what used to feel like the inevitable. Emotional drops are not inevitable. Now I understand that, and can not only avoid them, but can guide my life toward any direction I feel is right for me. This book is a very realistic version of 'Your Dreams Come True'.
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